In Loving Memory…
The first time he hit me I kept thinking he was sick.
I rationalised it, maybe I had provoked him. Robert wasn't violent, I had known
him for like what, 8 years? So he wasn't the violent kind. I know him – I knew
him. I knew his heart and the things that he wouldn't do to hurt me. We stared
into each other's eyes for what seems like eternity. In those moments, we didn’t
talk we simply stared into each other's eyes, the gateway to the heart.
Each time I looked into his eyes, I saw his purity at
heart, his gentleness, deep sadness and a devilish twinkle. Everyone has it,
right? My Robert had it alright, I never judged him for it because I knew I had
the same kind of devilish twinkle in my eye. I loved him, even though I knew, I
suspected something was amiss and my gut had warned me – but still, the heart
wants what it wants.
And so I fell, deep I did fall.
We would go dancing, we loved to dance. He was a
jealous lover and couldn't stand to share my attention with anyone. He would
get irritable when a guy stared at me for too long; talk to me for too long;
even very much as smile at me for too long. I found it sweet and I liked it. We
didn't have much, but we had each other. He liked his whisky, and I had no
problem with that. He didn't talk much, only when necessary but when he
laughed, his deep booming laughter would reverberate the entire room.
It was love.
Years later…
Our kids, my babies, two beautiful babies aged two
years apart. Robert, being who he was, only drank himself silly and was never
present at their births. I was content, I never complained, never fussed, never
nagged. I knew he had his own way of showing that he cared. He paid the
maternity fees so, what was there to fuss about? He smiled at them when he woke
up and sometimes sang to them in his drunken stupor. He was a flawed father,
but he was their flawed father regardless. We never quarrelled since I let him do
as he pleased.
The day he first hit me, he had been his usual self,
drinking himself silly. He got home and found me breastfeeding our youngest
child. Leo, our first born son, was napping peacefully oblivious of the prospects
of things running amok. His chest rose and fell rhythmically as he took in the
purest of air through his tiny nose. Robert staggered in and stared at me for a
while, I felt a sliver of panic blossoming within me but I remained calm as my
baby suckled on. He didn't look away, we kept staring at each other. He then sat
on his favourite seat and within no time was fast asleep. My baby was asleep
too, as if on cue. I went to put him to sleep, then proceeded to wake Robert to
go to bed since he hated waking up on the couch in the morning. As soon as I
poked him, he sprung up and struck me hard in the face! It was unanticipated
and in the next instant I felt the ground touching my face, or is it my face
touching the ground? Bile crept up my throat and I lay there on the floor
trying to recollect myself.
Morning came.
Robert didn't utter a word about that night's event,
and life went on as it always does.
Time went on.
My two boys were accustomed to a drunk father who was,
with each day, becoming more of a stranger to them than a father. I was
accustomed to living my life for my two boys. Robert became a distant memory.
He came home late everyday alright, left in the early morning but we never said
anything to each other. Not even a good morning grunt, or “Where are my socks?”
or “Is my tea ready?” Nothing. We barely said a word to each other, and I was
okay with it.
I knew he was okay. I'd know when he wasn't.
I'd know when he was disgruntled about something. I'd
know, right?
Wrong.
Saturday June 6th, that Saturday was our 8th
anniversary. However, anniversaries are for people who are financially stable.
Not for financially confused individuals like Robert and I so it would've been
stupid to expect anything from my emotionally and financially detached husband.
So, I spent the day reminiscing what we had always been and loving my baby boys
who were my world and heaven above. Other than that, I went about my daily
chores around the house and left for the market to sell omena. Robert was a
construction worker who liked to spend his daily wages on booze. I liked
spending my daily wages on my two boys, getting them fed, clothing them up and
all. I didn't mind, they were all I had in this world.
Nobody else mattered.
The omena business was a booming one and so, having
sold my cache, I closed early that day. I strapped Len, our youngest, on my
back and proceeded to pick Leo from Mama Sophie, who runs a local day care.
Nothing compared to the day cares known to the suburbanites, but it was one
familiar to those living in hovels. I picked him and paid Mama Sophie for the
day and proceeded home to cook for my sons. I got to my humble dwelling and
made dinner. At around 8:30 PM, dinner was ready. Robert staggered in as usual,
took his seat and started singing incorrigibly. I served him some food but he
seemed unmoved by the sweet aroma of the sizzling hot plate of fried omena and
ugali. I then started helping out Leo, who never likes feeding. Len was fast already asleep having suckled
while I made dinner. Then, I thought I heard Robert mumble. I turned to look at
him but his head hung as if he was getting too sleepy, by now he'd stopped
singing and an ingratiating calm rented the air.
I continued urging Leo to eat, but for some reason I
couldn't shake this nagging feeling that something was amiss. I glanced at
Robert and our eyes met, his eyes had this evil twinkle, then he blinked and
looked away. Knowing better, I didn't ask anything. I finished feeding Leo and later
noticed that Robert hadn't touched his food. I wasn't surprised but, at the
same time, I couldn't quite shake this nasty unsettling feeling I had. The wind
pushed open the window and, as I locked it up, I noticed that outside the night
seemed darker than usual. The wind continued to whistle fervently. I shifted my
gaze towards Robert, the love of my life, father to my two little lovely boys.
He must've felt my gaze poking him for he looked up and met my eyes, for the
second time that night.
I saw darkness in those eyes. It was a darkness that I
had never seen, yet it appeared to have always been there, lying, waiting. A
deeply rooted kind of darkness that even light can't drive out. He stood up,
grabbed a machete from under the bed, charged towards me like an angry bull and
slash! The first slash landed on my hands as I tried to cover my face. I was
scared stiff, couldn't even manage a scream. I was afraid for our son Leo.
Luckily he was on the seat where I had placed him.
Another slash!
My son Len is fast asleep. Full of life even in his
oblivious sleep. It was Leo who pained me more than the landing of the machete
on by body.
Slash! He continues slashing my body, all I can feel is
unfathomable pain. Not for my body which is breaking with every blow, but for
my little boys. Then I am wet – blood. Wet from my own blood, I can feel my
face falling apart, wait, I can't breathe. Why is my chest tight? My legs are wobbly,
my knees I can't feel them too. There's blood everywhere and, on my way to the
ground, I manage to see Leo’s face. A splatter of my blood has touched it. I
meet his baby eyes and I see terror all over. My heart breaks.
Then there's
darkness.
P.S I
wrote this story in memory of a life lost due to Domestic violence. Jackline
Nekesa was brutally murdered by her husband who decapitated her in the presence
of their children and is still at large. My heart bleeds. This brutality and
violence against women needs to stop. It is not normal, there is no normalcy in
violence, so let us not succumb to numbness. The reality is that there is no
neutrality – we are all involved in this violent reality. Therefore, let us not
presume apathy such that we normalize domestic violence as a society.
#WeWillNeverForgetJacklineNekesa
#EndGBV
Read full story here: Man beheads wife after domestic fight in Kibera
In Loving Memory...
By Janet Kilel
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